How to Make Your Compliments Count

Free compliments

Free compliments for everyone! (Photo by Memphis CVB, Flickr)

I was doing my school work and it started saying something about communication, and I thought, ‘What a perfect time to procrastinate.’ So I started researching what makes a genuinely good compliment, and the interwebs suggested that I reflect on what kind of compliments I enjoy receiving, or which ones stand out more than others, because odds are, other people probably like similar compliments.

Anyway, the results are in: I love compliments that are about my internal qualities rather than my external appearance. I don’t care what you think about my hair, but I do care if you think of me as a good person, and I care about how you think I treat you or others around me. The quality of your outfit is trivial, but the quality of your heart is paramount. So I think that the best compliments are the ones that don’t age, maybe?

Smiling girl

Compliments about our internal qualities are much better than those about our appearance. (Photo by Luci Correia, Flickr)

Also the Internet told me that giving a good compliment isn’t about being outgoing, it’s about being positive. I totally agree with that. And because I’m that good, I found some really sweet compliments to get us started on the journey to making other people feel better about themselves:

  1. Thanks for taking care of that, you really helped me out. It feels great to know I can depend on you.
  2. You’re like sunshine on a rainy day. (I like that one!)
  3. You’re gorgeous/handsome, but that’s the least interesting thing about you.
  4. I bet you do your crossword puzzles in pen.

Wow, that’s a lot of words. Kudos to you if you made it to the end!

What’s your favorite compliment? Tell me in the comments section below.

About Esperanza Hurley
Esperanza Hurley is the safety coordinator for a sheet metal fabrication company. She is also an actress, humorist and blogger who is passionate about fitness, health, animals, and cheese. These are her stories.

One Response to How to Make Your Compliments Count

  1. Jathan Fink says:

    Reblogged this on Jadeworks Entertainment and commented:

    Compliments can make us feel pretty fantastic. Find out which ones work better than others with our new writer’s first post!

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