Shut Down the Haters and Live Your Life

Man spreading arms to ocean

When you learn to tune out the haters and love yourself more, anything is possible. (Photo by David Amsler, Flickr)

When you show people who you are and they reject you because of personal bias or prejudice, or they decide who they think you are before they even give you a chance, there is only one thing to do. Move. On. 

If you are trying your hardest to be the best person you can be, you have to mentally shut down the haters. They are always going to be there, and they come in all shapes and sizes, in every role possible, from sibling and parent to colleague, classmate or neighbor. Some of them don’t even know you at all, but they judge you from afar. Don’t allow their negative energy to rock your world.

Love yourself

Real happiness comes from learning to love yourself first. (Photo by Quinn Dombrowski, Flickr)

Instead, know this: you are worthy of so much love, success, and most of all, peace. When you face yourself in the mirror and like what you see, when you are comfortable in your own skin, there is nothing more precious than that. That self love you feel is God saying, I made you and you’re beautiful just the way you are. When you’re aware of that, that is a gift that you need to treasure, safeguard, and cling to.

Show the world just how fierce you are! This isn’t to say you should be narcissistic or rude. Nobody has time for that kind of drama. But believe in yourself and be proud of who you are. When you can do that, it marks the beginning of a new chapter, a new life, free of secrets and full of promise. Revel in it and be who you need to be to live your authentic life.

Those shocked by your revelation will most likely catch up, realize their mistake and come back to you. People are drawn to confidence and positive energy. Shine your light bright. Don’t hide it. Hold it up like a torch and guide their way with it.

And if they don’t come back, realize your strength and just how courageous you are. Their refusal to accept you, who you are and the wonderful light of your being is on them. They will not conquer you. You will overcome this hurdle, this hurt. Live your life as only you can. When you do that, it makes every day from now on more meaningful and every goal more obtainable.

You’ve got this.

About Jathan Fink
Jathan is a journalist, philanthropist, and entrepreneur. He is also a travel junkie, foodie and jazz aficionado. A California native, he resides in Texas.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: